Saturday, May 12, 2012

Identity Crisis A period of uncertainty and confusion in which a person's sense of identity becomes insecure, typically due to a change in their expected aims or role in society. A psychosocial state or condition of disorientation and role confusion occurring especially in adolescents as a result of conflicting internal and external experiences, pressures, and expectations and often producing acute anxiety.

Why is it so often we loose who we really are when were in a relationships? Whether it’s mentally, physically, socially, emotionally, spiritually, or financially. Loosing your Identity can streams from family, friends, husband/wife, boyfriend/girlfriend, work and etc. Identity plays a big part in life and normally starts at a young age. We as people waste so much time and energy on situations that doesn’t enhance ourselves or life!

Do you know someone who has ever fall in love and then tried to change the person? Maybe it’s you? I never understood this. Why change someone you love? How about they change into someone that you don’t like, what would you then do? If you thinks it's necessary to change them, does this mean that you didn’t really love them for who they are in the first place? So, then why not find someone you don’t have to change? Why not find someone who fit’s the criteria in the first place? I'm sure each of you can tell a story about someone who changed so much that you didn't even recognize them anymore.

However some people try and change their Identity because they feel as if they're failures in life and wish to start over. So, that brings me to my next question. Can people really change who they are? Well, yes and no. My opinion is that people generally do not change who they are. They may evolve and adjust to a degree, but I believe each person is unique, and maintains their identity and characteristics. I do agree that people can change In Christ “All things are possible” He is the only one who can change our past, present and future situations.

In Christ you will find your Identity!

Friday, May 4, 2012

What is LOVE?

LOVE - strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties (2): attraction based on sexual desire : affection and tenderness felt by lovers (3): affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests....
Most people use the word LOVE often but don't know how or what LOVE actually is. If you don't LOVE yourself how can you LOVE someone else? To LOVE someone unconditionally means that you LOVE the person exactly as they are, exactly as they were before, and exactly as they will be in the future. Unconditional LOVE is more of a spiritual thing! It has nothing whatsoever to do with SEX.
Most people are in relationships because they're lonely and/or battling with acceptance. I once said that LOVE was a four letter words until someone proved you wrong. I no longer have that perspective about LOVE. People change constantly so if you LOVE the person, you will LOVE them even if they become something you disagree with. LOVE is not what people say it is until you experience it yourself it's more than actions or words!
  • You really shouldn't say 'I LOVE you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget."
  • "LOVE is when someone hurts you. And you get so mad but you don't yell at them because you know it would hurt their feelings."
  • "Love is what makes you smile when you're tired"
  • " When you LOVE you can tell someone something bad about yourself and you're scared they won't LOVE you anymore. But then you get surprised because not only do they still LOVE you, they LOVE you even more."
In order to truly understand LOVE, you must first forget everything you learned about it from family, society and friends (including what I just said). When are you going to trust yourself and LOVE? You are the only person who can tell you what LOVE is. The reason I wrote this is because we as people always try to fit "LOVE" into marriage, relationships, friendship and dating. You would never experience true LOVE if you keep doing these things. Take a stand and get rid of everything you think you know about LOVE first. Real, true LOVE is unconditional!
  • "Lust is not LOVE"
  • "Fear is not LOVE"
  • "Jealousy is not LOVE"
  • "Abuse of any form is not LOVE"
  • "GOD IS LOVE"
Dedicated To ~ Mauriesha Holmes

Monday, April 23, 2012

FORGIVENESS

Forgiveness - is the renunciation or cessation of resentment, indignation or anger as a result of a perceived offense, disagreement, or mistake, or ceasing to demand punishment or restitution(Wikipedia)


When your hurt by someone thought of revenges stays on your mind what, how and when can I pay them back? That normally happens because you’re holding on to resentment and anger. I have learned that you’re not forgiving for them but for yourself. Nearly everyone has been hurt either by words, action or criticism. It may even start from your childhood from your parents, colleague, spouse, or teacher. Do you know someone or maybe your that person that was always told your just like your (Father/Mother)? Or it can be a (spouse/mate) who tells you if you leave no one will want or love you. It May be a (Teacher/Mentor) that said your never going to learn or finish school. Prove them wrong and step out and do the opposite of what they say you can’t do you might even shock yourself. People will try and sabotaged your dreams and visions don’t ever allow them that much power over your life. Unkind words can leave you feeling angry, bitterness and vengeance. Forgiveness can help you physical, emotional and spiritual. Refusing to forgive is a sin. If we receive forgiveness from God, we must give it to others who hurt us. We cannot hold grudges or seek revenge. Trust god for justice and forgive the people who offended us. That doesn’t mean we must forget the offense, however; usually that’s beyond our power. When we forgive we release the others from blame, leaving the event in God’s hands and moving on. Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you deny the other person’s responsibility for hurting you and it doesn’t minimize of justify the wrong they have done. Don’t think that when you forgive the person you excuse the act of wrong doing.


Here are a few benefits of forgiving someone from The Mayo Clinic.

  • Healthier relationship
  • Greater spiritual and psychological well being
  • Less anxiety, stress and hostility
  • Lower blood pressure
  • Fewer symptoms of depression
  • Lower risk of alcohol and substance abuse

Tuesday, April 10, 2012

"What am I living for?"

Hey World,


On yesterday a Co-worker asked me "What am I living for?"  While that is an important question, the most important question of all is, "Who am I living for?" It took me a moment to answer I simply replied and said I’m living for the one who died for me and conquered death. A couple of hours later I went to the restroom and stand a few feet from the mirror and ask myself were I really living for Christ. I looked in the mirror and saw the face of a woman who failed her Maker. Again I promised I wouldn’t but I did. There was times when I was quiet when I should have been bold, took a seat when I should have stand, and the one I battle with the most I should have kept quiet in some situation instead I was loud and out of character. If this was the first time, it would be different, but it wasn’t. How many times can one fall and expect to be caught, my eyes look in the mirror and saw a sinner, and a promise-breaker. But by faith I look in the mirror and saw a prodigal child bearing a ring of grace on my finger and the kiss of the father on my face. Thru out the years I thought I was living to find love, fall in love, make memories, enjoy life, love family and friends. We all have a purpose in life. No two people are alike dare to be different and I assure you it will pay off.  Life will bring tragedy and triumph!! I’m asking that you please don’t wallow around in self pity dust yourself off and get back up. The sum of the story is no matter what or who your living for it’s always a purpose for your existing. There is nothing in this whole wide world that will keep GOD from us beside OURSELEVS…. I decide WIN, LOOSE OR DRAW to keep going and don’t give up on my DREAMS and I would love for you to do the same!!! There so many things I still have yet to accomplish but I’m patiently waiting.


This day I dare you to LIVE

CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY......

Hey World,


There are many unhappy people living in the world today. The saying goes, misery loves company. Miserable people spread their misery around. On the other hand, people who possess joy can also share it.  A new study by sociologists at the University of Maryland concludes that unhappy people watch   20 % more TV, while very happy people spend more time reading and socializing. Happy people are normally optimism and see the glass half full. If a negative thought creeps in your mind replace it with a positive thought. Happy people laugh more, forgive easily, enjoy love, and take responsibility. Unhappy people normally get stuck in the past; Compare themselves to others and their life, focus on the negative details, don’t forgive easily and overcomplicating life. I have learned in life that it’s better to happy than unhappy. If you want to be happy forgive, forgive, and forgive.

Monday, April 2, 2012

Self-esteem

Hey World,

Today's topic is self worth! Do you have it? Self-esteem plays a major part in self-worth. Let's define the words. Self-esteem: A confidence and satisfaction in oneself a feeling of having respect for yourself and your abilities. Self-worth: A feeling that you are a good person who deserves to be treated with respect or respect for or a favorable opinion of oneself the quality of being worthy of esteem or respect.

In today's world people are hurting all over because of self-esteem problems. It may have started growing up in your household,school,relationship's or at work. If your not comfortable with  yourself about your weight, height, appearance or educational status etc do something about it. I learn the things that we most fear are what were actually great at. Okay I know it may be easier said then done but, you can do it. We have people who put others down to make themselves look or feel better. I learn most of the time their not happy with themselves or because they may see a quality inside you that they wish they could possess.

Low self-esteem stats are hard to come by and not easy to validate. A large number of people struggle with self-esteem issue, that never seek help. Girls' self-esteem peaks when they are nine years old. 40% of girls with low self-esteem VS 18%  of those with high self-esteem said they experienced sex before the ninth grade. 1 in 10 young men are using unproven supplements and/or steroids. 7 in 10  girls believe they are not good enough or do not measure up in some way including their look, performance in school.  80% of 10 years old girls have dieted.  92% of woman in the USA want to change some aspect of their physical appearance.

He is despised and rejected of men; a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief: and we hid as it were our faces from him; he was despised, and we esteemed him not.
Surely he hath borne our griefs, and carried our sorrows: yet we did esteem him stricken, smitten of God, and afflicted.              
Isaiah 53:3-4




Sunday, April 1, 2012

Hello World,


I consider myself an educated woman with much potential, fire goals, ambitions and drive! I learn in life it doesn't matter how Rich, Educated, Beautiful, or Popular you are or will become. There will be
ups, downs, laughter and crying. I experienced a set in May, 9 2008 and I thought it was the worst thing ever! Little did I know after the pain was over it was the best thing that has ever happen to me! When  pain comes it's not that we don't see the sun it's just that we refuse to look for it. I realize everything will not always go as plan so instead of complaining I found a solution. It's so easy to blame others when things go wrong. I re-valuated myself before I started pointing fingers. The thing that went on was from myself and what I allowed people to do. It was back to square one people only do what you allow. Self examination I learn is one of the best and most important tools in life. Last but not least the GOLDEN RULE (Treat others the way you would want to be treated). When I felt trap in 2008 I was looking for answer in everyone but myself little did I knew I hold the key to my lock. I'm not one needs validation from other but, I must say it's easy when trouble hit to call others. I was not leading on the word of God! I was wavering like a sea at sail. Ohhhh how we get lost if life and forget who is our source. I dig deep in the word and start applying to my life. I learn that prayer is just not enough you nor I or exempt from going Thru trals and tribulations. It's doesn't matter 's 2012 and I can truly say without a shadow of doubt that I now who I am as a Woman and Daughter of the most high. A set back is a set up for success then you walk straight into your miracle. I'm a living witness....
To be continue