Why is it so often we loose who we really are when were in a relationships? Whether it’s mentally, physically, socially, emotionally, spiritually, or financially. Loosing your Identity can streams from family, friends, husband/wife, boyfriend/girlfriend, work and etc. Identity plays a big part in life and normally starts at a young age. We as people waste so much time and energy on situations that doesn’t enhance ourselves or life!
Do you know someone who has ever fall in love and then tried to change the person? Maybe it’s you? I never understood this. Why change someone you love? How about they change into someone that you don’t like, what would you then do? If you thinks it's necessary to change them, does this mean that you didn’t really love them for who they are in the first place? So, then why not find someone you don’t have to change? Why not find someone who fit’s the criteria in the first place? I'm sure each of you can tell a story about someone who changed so much that you didn't even recognize them anymore.
However some people try and change their Identity because they feel as if they're failures in life and wish to start over. So, that brings me to my next question. Can people really change who they are? Well, yes and no. My opinion is that people generally do not change who they are. They may evolve and adjust to a degree, but I believe each person is unique, and maintains their identity and characteristics. I do agree that people can change In Christ “All things are possible” He is the only one who can change our past, present and future situations.
In Christ you will find your Identity!