When your hurt by someone thought of revenges stays on your mind what, how and when can I pay them back? That normally happens because you’re holding on to resentment and anger. I have learned that you’re not forgiving for them but for yourself. Nearly everyone has been hurt either by words, action or criticism. It may even start from your childhood from your parents, colleague, spouse, or teacher. Do you know someone or maybe your that person that was always told your just like your (Father/Mother)? Or it can be a (spouse/mate) who tells you if you leave no one will want or love you. It May be a (Teacher/Mentor) that said your never going to learn or finish school. Prove them wrong and step out and do the opposite of what they say you can’t do you might even shock yourself. People will try and sabotaged your dreams and visions don’t ever allow them that much power over your life. Unkind words can leave you feeling angry, bitterness and vengeance. Forgiveness can help you physical, emotional and spiritual. Refusing to forgive is a sin. If we receive forgiveness from God, we must give it to others who hurt us. We cannot hold grudges or seek revenge. Trust god for justice and forgive the people who offended us. That doesn’t mean we must forget the offense, however; usually that’s beyond our power. When we forgive we release the others from blame, leaving the event in God’s hands and moving on. Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you deny the other person’s responsibility for hurting you and it doesn’t minimize of justify the wrong they have done. Don’t think that when you forgive the person you excuse the act of wrong doing.
Here are a few benefits of forgiving someone from The Mayo Clinic.
- Healthier relationship
- Greater spiritual and psychological well being
- Less anxiety, stress and hostility
- Lower blood pressure
- Fewer symptoms of depression
- Lower risk of alcohol and substance abuse